Philippians 1:29 says it is 'granted' to you to suffer for Christ — not an accident. 1 Peter 4:12-13: don't be surprised by the fiery trial. Suffering is not God's failure.
The 'God wants me happy' narrative evaporates the moment life strikes. Philippians 1:29 and 1 Peter 4:12-13 teach that suffering for Christ is granted to us — a refiner's fire, not a sign of God's failure.
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